Do Not Avoid Or Deny Anger!
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We experience anger when we feel frustrated about something we can’t have and/or when we feel we have been treated unfairly or unjustly. It is a natural normal human emotion that can arise from others (when we are treated unfairly) or from ourselves (with unmet or unrealistic expectations).
WHAT IS ANGER?
Anger is an energy system that mobilizes us for self-protection. If it is expressed adequately, it helps us survive and stand up for ourselves and our rights.
Yet, some people either have no anger, are afraid of it, see it as evil and/or have repressed it to a point where it is not useful to them.
Those people have a problem I call “anger avoidance.” At all costs, they try to avoid their anger and the anger of others.
People with anger avoidance vary in their intensity of distancing themselves from their anger or the anger of others.
People who disown or are frightened of their anger or the anger of others are also highly susceptible to depression and physical symptoms. In the earlier years of psychology, many psychologists, especially psychoanalytic theorists, believed depression was primarily repressed (or disowned) anger.
If you don´t think you need a professional counseling right now, feel free to look at some ideas, which might be helpful here.
My personal advise for you however is: do not over- neither under- estimate your anger.
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